How do you know a man is hurting?
Women often don’t know. Just the other day, one of my lady clients told me that she only just really got, how she has hurt men, and that she is just having an epiphany of how men indeed have feelings. She has been too focused on how men have hurt her feelings so deeply over the course of her life, that she could not see the hurt in them.
Honestly, I have been there as well, it is embarrassing to say. But the way men have expressed their hurt feelings to me had been undecipherable to me. And so, I totally misinterpreted their behaviors and cryptic communications about their feelings.
And by misinterpreting their behaviors, I reacted in ways that only made things worse, and down we went the rabbit hole.
The core wounding of men and that of women, and the un-met need that is at the core of it, is diametrically opposite. And if we do not understand what that is, and what the secret sauce is that these wounds long to have pasted on them, we can’t really ever get it right. I don’t think. I certainly have not.